Are You In An Unhealthy Relationship?        Does Your Partner? » Embarrass you with bad names and put downs? » Look at you or act in ways that scare you? » Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go? » Stop you from seeing or talking to friends and family? » Prevent you from seeing or talking to friends and family? » Take your money or Social Security, make you ask for money, or refuse to give you money? » Make all the decisions? » Tell you you're a bad parent or threaten to take away your children? » Act like the abuse is no big deal, tells you its your fault, or deny it happened? » Destroy your property? » Threaten to hurt or kill your pets? » Intimidate you with guns, knives, or other weapons? » Shove you, slap you, or hit you? » Force you to drop criminal charges? »Threaten to hurt or kill your children? » Threaten to commit suicide if you leave? » Threaten to kill you? If you answered yes to even one, you may be in abusive relationship. Domestic violence is a pattern of physical and psychological abuse, threats, intimidation and isolation or economic coercion used by one person to exert power and control over an intimate partner or family member.  Call the free national domestic violence hotline for options, support, connections at 1-800-799-7233, 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) or the Chicago Domestic Violence Hotline 1-877-83-6338, 1-877-863-6339 (TTY).